But first, what the heck is a Venus sign? Venus in Astrology is the planet of love, who knew!!?
The Roman goddess whose functions encompassed love, beauty, desire, sex, fertility, prosperity and victory. In Roman mythology, she was the mother of the Roman people through her son, Aeneas, who survived the fall of Troy and fled to Italy. Julius Caesar claimed her as his ancestor. Venus was central to many religious festivals, and was revered in Roman religion under numerous cult titles.
WOW “central to many religious festivals” Why? Maybe because, love, prosperity and desire is fun! Well sometimes its fun. Fun when you get what you desire, not so fun when it is taken away, or we loose what we desire.
What is my Venus Sign? Go Here http://www.astro.com/swisseph/venus.htm
You want true happiness and love in your life? Then find out what you desire, and most importantly exactly what you do not desire. You can do this is a few ways:
- EXPERIENCE: Love many careers, people, friends, hobbies, lifestyles and fail fail fail, this is how most of discover our needs and desires. A long life of self discovery.
- SELF HELP: Astrology, personality tests, Myers Briggs, Journaling, and some coaching or counseling. While you are ‘discovering life’ as written above you can speed up the progress by using these techniques.
- LET IT GO: Once you have done one of the above, the next step is letting go of those desires. Yeah, I did not say it was the easiest stage.
- Another step is to know your weaknesses, your fears and what you do to nurture yourself thro this. For example, if you have a fear of not feeling safe, you may pick friends and lovers that apear to make you feel safe.
Below is a summary of what VENUS signs desire:
Find out your VENUS SIGN here http://www.astro.com/swisseph/venus.htm
If your Venus is in Aries:
When your Venus is in Aries, you are direct and upfront about what you want. Your love nature is well-developed, but your fire can burn out just as quickly as it’s ignited. Your love nature is rather me-centered, not unlike the nature of a newborn child whose cries seem to say, “Hey, what about me?!”
Your infatuations are quick and all-encompassing, and you love a chase! You tend to prefer being the one to pursue a love interest. Your love nature is Mars-ruled, which gives energy, and a level of competitiveness, to your social and romantic nature. Unless your Venus in Aries is strongly aspected by Saturn, you have no qualms, thoughts, or practical concerns when you are romantically attracted to someone—you just jump right in. When you want something (or someone), you want it now! Aries has a way of blowing desires out of proportion, with the result that they quickly become needs instead of wants. Your wants, in fact, can eclipse rationality, and there is a bit of a naive quality to your interactions with others.
Because your attractions are impulsive, you can be attracted to many different types of people. However, if you are going to share much time with someone, a rather independent type is best for you. Close sharing and intimacy can sometimes try your patience, and a whining or dependent partner will wear you out quickly. You are a highly personal lover, and you can easily become touchy and irritable. You infuse excitement into your relationships and tend to get bored fairly easily. But you are also highly demonstrative and open in matters of the heart, and your lover will appreciate this directness and spontaneity.
How You Relate to a Partner who also has Venus in Aries: Sparks fly! There can be much enthusiasm in this relationship, but a clash of wills is likely, because both you and your partner want instant gratification and a certain emotional moodiness will predominate. Your cycles won’t always coordinate, so there can be many ups and downs in this relationship. The passion, however, will not be wanting! In bed, when we mix fire and fire, neither of you is inclined to be receptive. Instead, you challenge each other. Look to Mars signs to see if there is a better balance of yin and yang. You are open-minded and pleasure-minded as well—and you have met your match! Each of you finds the conquest exciting, so in order to keep your relationship fresh, you might want to recreate or create new and interesting adventures. In fact, it is likely that you will do that naturally. You are confrontational lovers who are not afraid of arguments. In fact, if things become too peaceful, you might just stir the pot a little in order to get things going. Love, for you both, needs to accomplish something. It needs to be refreshed and stoked, prodded and poked, and it needs to have movement. It would be wise for you to give each other a little space, and when you are together, use your abundant energies to make things happen. Your relationship is likely to be intense and even combative at times, but it will be lively and exciting simply because both of you need it to be!
How You Relate to a Partner with Venus in Taurus: You crave instant gratification in love, while your Venus in Taurus partner is more than capable of taking things slow. You can benefit each other by balancing each other out, as you have markedly different styles and needs in love. You see in your partner what you lack, and vice versa. However, both of you are rather me-centered in your approach to love and this can be a difficult combination as a result. Stubbornness and clashes of will are more than likely to pepper your relationship over time. You might find your partner a tad slow, or even dull, in his or her approach to romance. Your lover is very focused on sensual pleasures and comforts, while your style is more utilitarian. Your peace-loving partner looks for harmony in his or her environment, but “harmony” looks rather monotonous in your eyes. This is a very passionate pairing, and you are likely to be the leader or aggressor in this relationship. Still, however receptive he or she is, your partner is nonetheless a force to be reckoned with in his or her own right! Your lover is strong, and it can be very difficult to nudge your partner out of his or her chosen position or stance. Although side-by-side signs are very dissimilar, the fact that we are matching yin with yang (or + with -) adds some wonderful attraction and sexual excitement to the mix. This is a powerful liaison, and although it can be challenging to get things right, you enjoy a challenge!
How You Relate to a Partner with Venus in Gemini: Love for both of you is equated with fun. You and your partner want to be active in your relationship, and neither of you is happy if your partnership enters a boring zone. You should be pleased with the amount of independence granted to you from each other. Together, your enthusiasm is infectious. Your partner is more intellectual than you are, finding good conversations stimulating. In fact, he or she can be brought to the most loving of moods when you engage in a satisfying verbal exchange with each other. You do enjoy having fun, but lengthy conversations are not always the ticket—in fact, if the talk drags on too long, you find it mind-numbing! The key here will be to stay active with each other, being careful not to ride too high on the enthusiastic energy you two generate when together, at the expense of enjoying each other in quiet ways once in a while. You can easily become impatient with your partner’s indecisiveness. As well, you may find it disconcerting when your partner’s conversations invariably stray from the most favorite topic—you! Probably the biggest problem in your partnership is a sense of instability. You react to each other very impulsively, and neither of you is given to setting goals for your partnership. Living in the moment certainly infuses a sense of playfulness and fun into your relationship that is enviable, but your relationship may not always feel dependable. In fact, your powerful attraction to each other often runs hot and cold. Harnessing the energy and passion of your combined energies will not be easy, but if you can slow down once in a while and enjoy each other, this relationship can be both invigorating and rich.
How You Relate to a Partner with Venus in Cancer: This combination definitely makes for a bit of an odd couple! Your Venus is Mars-ruled, while your partner’s is Moon-ruled. There is a distinct difference between what is important to you in love, and what your partner considers important. You ride high on spontaneity, and you are quite open in your expression of feelings, if not a little erratic. Your partner tends to take his or her time when it comes to both expressing feelings and moving a relationship forward. Your partner is often defensive with feelings, while you are configured to be on the offence much of the time! At first, your markedly different styles can be wildly attractive. Later, your differences can prove to be a bone of contention. Tenderness is important to your lover, but you express love in a more direct, aggressive manner. Your assertive style can border on being downright inconsiderate at times, at least in your partner’s eyes, which is the polar opposite of how he or she treats a loved one! You want instant gratification and don’t have much patience for beating around the bush, but your lover often requires others to gently and subtly coax him or her to open up and express feelings. What it boils down to is a difference in styles of expressing love and affection, and understanding that your styles are often dramatically different can go a long way toward harmony. If you are willing to learn from each other, you may become an expert at infusing your relationship with energy and excitement, and your partner can offer the support and security that doesn’t come quite as naturally to you.
How You Relate to a Partner with Venus in Leo: Both of you are spirited lovers. With both of your Venuses in fire signs, you and your partner approach love in a fiery, direct manner. Sparks fly between you! Each of you falls in love quickly and intuitively, although your partner tends to take love a little more seriously than you do. Both of you are rather me-centered in love, which of course can be somewhat problematic! You and your Venus in Leo lover are competitive folk—just be sure you don’t compete with each other too much. Friendly competition can be invigorating, however, and can help maintain the vigor and excitement you both crave in love. You admire each other a great deal, although your pride may not allow you to show that admiration all the time. Because your temperaments in love are similar in many ways, when the relationship is good, it’s very good; when the relationship is bad, it’s very bad! The ego-stroking and flattery that your partner craves may not always be forthcoming with you, because you incline to be somewhat blunt and unpolished in style. Your partner is likely to appreciate your simple charm, or find it infuriating. Probably it’s a bit of both! Your partner’s style of expression in love is certainly more flowery. Chances are just as good that you will find your partner exciting and infuriating at the same time! Let your lover know how special he or she is, but in order for this to work, he or she will definitely need to share the spotlight once in a while. You are both strong people in love, and you can have a lot of fun together.
How You Relate to a Partner with Venus in Virgo: Here, we are mixing Fire (you!) and Earth (Virgo – your partner!). It’s not an easy combination, for certain, but it has its merits. One of the most noticeable differences between you and your partner is your need for stimulation and excitement contrasted with your partner’s desire for safety and security. You can be quite active together, and pour some energy into activities, but your impulsive and competitive nature may leave your partner feeling insecure at times. You’ll need to take the time, every once in a while, to reassure your lover, and let him or her know how much you appreciate them. Both of you are simple in your needs, but those needs are markedly different. You are not the most flowery of lovers, and neither is your partner, but your lover might find you downright insensitive at times. He or she is a sensitive soul, although not quite as delicate as one might think. He or she will put up with so much, just to make a relationship work, but your lover does want some appreciation for all of his or her efforts. Both of you value honesty, and you’ll generally get it from each other. You will likely be flattered by your partner’s willingness to please, in the moments when you stop to notice this trait. Money matters will most certainly bring some conflict, as your partner is more cautious and a natural worrier and you can be the classic impulse buyer. Shared interests are important to your partner, and this may also be a problem, as you and your partner are really quite dissimilar! However, love can make this combination work, especially if both of you take the time to learn from the other.
How You Relate to a Partner with Venus in Libra: Here we have a case of “opposites attract”! The attraction to each other can be very powerful, mainly because each of you seems to offer what the other lacks. Your direct—even aggressive—approach in romance seems to promise to simplify your partner’s life, as he or she tends toward indecision. It’s a stark contrast to your partner’s more passive, mental approach to love. Note that your Venusian rulers are Venus and Mars! This promises much excitement. Your partnership may be better if it’s an affair rather than a long-standing relationship, as the differences between you that spark the initial attraction can grow to be difficult over time. However, with love and understanding, this relationship can work! Your partner is a somewhat dependent creature, while you are much more of a go-getter in matters of the heart. Your lover’s indecision can be a bone of contention in your relationship, simply because you don’t have vast stores of patience to wait. If you see someone (or something) you like, you’ll go for it! No need to weigh the pros and cons, as Aries is an intuitive Fire sign, and you figure that if it turns out wrong, the mess can be cleaned up after the fact. Your partner, on the other hand, notoriously takes his or her time when it comes to making decisions in love. And, your lover values reason. There is no one quite as reasonable as he or she is when it comes to matters of the heart! This works well with your more intuitive, active persona in the sense that you definitely need a partner who will compromise, but your partner may grow to resent the inequality in your relationship. Additionally, you don’t always listen to reason—you are more impulsive. The best bet for long-term compatibility with this pairing would be to open your hearts to each other and learn. Somewhere between your polar opposites is a balance. If you can’t find that point, your relationship may very well turn into a game of tug-of-war.
How You Relate to a Partner with Venus in Scorpio: An unusual combination, but very intriguing when two powerful Venus placements come together! The attraction can be exciting, but harmony can be difficult to attain. You are direct while your partner is more roundabout in expressions of love. Your libido fluctuates tremendously, and your partner’s is constant. You live for the excitement of the moment in matters of the heart, but your partner has an eye on commitment and constancy. Sexually, you are likely to have a powerful union, but emotionally there can be difficulties because your styles of expressing love and affection are so contrary. Perhaps this combination is better when the relationship is shorter term—the memory of your times together could be powerful. Still, this combination can work in a committed, long-term relationship with heaps of love and understanding. Adjustments will most surely have to be made. Butting heads is something you are likely to do, as both of you want your way in relationships, but both of you will have to learn to concede to each other now and again! Passions will run high, and if you can harness that energy and put it to work for your relationship in a positive way, then the union will be satisfying indeed.
How You Relate to a Partner with Venus in Sagittarius: Because both of you fall in love intuitively, almost on impulse, your relationship is almost certain to start quickly. Neither of you takes the time to evaluate potential partners on practical levels. Your interest is aroused suddenly and is based usually on pure infatuation and attraction, and the same goes for your Venus in Sagittarius partner. We are mixing two fiery Venus placements here, and this can make for a very stimulating—even invigorating—pairing. For the most part, you will inspire each other, and mutual encouragement is more than likely. Love for both of you needs to be active and growth-oriented. Your partner may be more intellectual than you, enjoying sharing his or her philosophies with you perhaps more than you would do naturally. Neither of you is afraid of a good heated debate, or outright argument, so tempers may flare at times, but neither of you is one to hold grudges and you both are willing to move forward and forget about problems easily. Both of you love to laugh and play with your partners, and neither of you likes to be tied down. Giving each other space is important, but it is likely to come naturally for both of you.
How You Relate to a Partner with Venus in Capricorn: The differences in your styles of expressing love should be pretty obvious right from the start. This can be a source of much fascination, and some misunderstandings as well. Your partner’s relationship needs are decidedly more practical and earthy than yours. In matters of the heart, you act first and think later. Your partner considers all of the ins and outs of the partnership: is it practical? Will it work down the road? Do you work well with each other? None of these things are quite as important to you, as you tend to think in the here and now, while your partner is future-minded. If you share your finances with your Venus in Capricorn lover, he or she will certainly help curb your habit for impulsive spending, and whether you appreciate that depends entirely on you! You might find your partner a little too serious at times, but hopefully he or she will enjoy the fact that you are capable of infusing relationships with fun and activity. Because you are more forthright in love, it is likely you will be responsible for getting this relationship going, but if you think you can always be the leader, you might have another thing coming! Yes, your partner is definitely more cautious with his or her heart than you are, but your lover has a reserve of strength that is mighty indeed. You might see your partner as somewhat of a challenge, but you find challenges in love exciting. Some clashes are inevitable, but with understanding and love, this relationship can work.
How You Relate to a Partner with Venus in Aquarius: In most cases, this combination inspires mutual respect and appreciation. Both of you are generally positive in matters of the heart, so optimism is likely the result when you are together. Your partner is somewhat unpredictable when it comes to expressions of love, and you are more likely to appreciate the “quirkiness” than most Venusian signs, simply because you enjoy challenges and the feeling that a relationship is “alive”. Furthermore, your lover’s unconventionality can be quite attractive to you. While others might complain that Venus in Aquarius can be a little too aloof, you are more apt to see that trait as a challenge—and rise to it! The only difficulty with all of this is that your desires in love are quite variable, and when they’re turned on, you want love and you want it right now. If your partner happens to be off on a tangent, seemingly in another world, you can quickly become impatient. However, both of you will give the other enough space to breathe, probably because you need some independence too. With your Venusian signs in a sextile with one another, you are likely to appreciate and respect each other, off-moods aside.
How You Relate to a Partner with Venus in Pisces: The attraction can be intense at first, but your inherent differences in matters of the heart might get the better of your relationship in the long run. With understanding and patience, however, this partnership can be very rewarding. You are more than likely the one to take the lead in this relationship. Your partner can be somewhat shy and unsure with someone new, but very charming indeed. He or she has a dreamy quality that can be very enticing. But this very quality that hooks your interest in your partner in the first place, might get you impatient once the novelty fades away! Your partner’s elusiveness and downright evasiveness stands in stark contrast to your style of expressing love—so much so that it could seem completely alien to you. You are direct and forthright with your partners, and usually appreciate the same in others. Your partner doesn’t always seem very clear, and this confuses you. If the love is there, all that is needed is the understanding that you and your partner express love in distinctly different ways. As well, you should know that your lover enjoys understatement in romance. Your bluntness may be appreciated by less sensitive souls, but this one can find it difficult to understand. Your partner, in turn, should learn to appreciate knowing exactly where he or she stands with you! You have much to offer each other once you get past the matter of differing love “styles”.